Dear Suzie,
I'm almost embarrassed to ask this question, but I have a dear friend whom I spend a lot of time with, including sleepovers and get-togethers at my house. Although I adore her company and sense of humour, I'm reluctant to spend more time with her because of one reason: she has the worst BO. I don't know if I should suspect if she has poor personal hygiene, or if there's something wrong with her health. Unfortunately, it's probably the first option. I love her dearly, and I wish her the best, and I don't want to hurt her, but I can't go on anymore in her presence. How can I help her, how should I tell her about this stinky problem?

Signed,
-Oh No BO

Dear Oh No,
Oh no, indeed. This is a very sensitive issue, and one that has to be dealt with the utmost tact and gentleness. Before you do or say anything, you must be absolutely sure that your friend is not suffering from an illness that causes body odour. There are a number of other factors that can contribute to body odour as well, such as hormonal issues and overactive glands. If you are still sure that you cannot spend another minute in your friend’s cloud of stink, I would advise that you proceed gently. There is a very high risk that you will offend your friend. Preface the conversation with kind words about how much you treasure your friendship, and then come right out and say it: “Emily, I think you should know that you have a bit of a body odour problem. I hope this is something you would tell me as I would certainly appreciate it. Please know that I’m saying this out of concern for you, and that there’s no need to be embarrassed.” Be prepared for some awkwardness, and the possibility that Emily will probably not talk to you for a while. Whatever you do, have some respect for your friend and don’t share this smelly tidbit with anybody else. Good luck to you!

Sincerely,
Suzie