I've been with my sweet, amazing boyfriend for over a year now, and everything is great, except for one thing. He is almost always late. It doesn't matter if we're just meeting for a casual coffee, or whether we have a reservation at a restaurant: it's 99% guaranteed that he'll be anywhere between 10 to 30 minutes late. Most of the time, he texts me to let me know he's on his way, but this just isn't cutting it anymore. I've mentioned how much I don’t like him doing this, and he is always apologetic, but I can't help but feel that he actually doesn't care. I'm starting to get to the end of my rope. What do I do??
- Get a Watch
Dear Get a Watch,
Tardiness happens to be one of my personal pet peeves. Although life can be messy and sometimes things can get in the way of punctuality, I believe that there is no good excuse for continually making people wait.
If I were you, I would bring this behaviour up with your boyfriend one last time. Don’t be whiny, and don’t be passive-aggressive. Just tell him that you know that he has a busy life, but so do you, and you don’t appreciate your time being wasted while he “waits for the streetcar” i.e. stops to buy cigarettes. Let him know that every moment he is late is a moment the two of you won’t get to spend together. Then drop the subject and give him a chance to make it up to you.
If he keeps you waiting more than 5 minutes the next time you see him after your talk, leave. Go get your nails done, get a coffee or go for a good browse at BMV. When he texts to find out where you’ve gone, tell him you’ll be late, and take your sweet time getting to him.
Good luck, Suzie